Last week I had coffee with one the the most squared away women I know. During our time together my friend was talking about her concept of two kinds of people in the world and I was struck by the similar concept I have when coaching clients around being grounded. She was sharing with me that in her experience one either walks into a room projecting "here I am" or one walks into a room thinking "there you are". An interesting concept if you think about it. How do you walk into a room? Most of us shift between "here I am" and "there you are" depending on the room, the people in the room, the day, etc.
I began to think about my work with clients where I focus on being present and filled with self-awareness; i.e grounded. When we enter a room is there a wrong or right way to project our energy? How do we make "here I am" a good way to enter a room rather than it being an ego based exercise that takes away from others? Is is always better to enter a room projecting "there you are"?
When we are present in the moment, knowing who we are, what we want, what we need, what our goals are we are grounded. It is from this position that we can walk into a room with the graciousness of "here I am" and/or the generosity of "there you are". We can increase others sense of welcome, comfort, value, engagement from either projection of our energy; when we are personally grounded we provide for others and reap rewards for ourselves.
It is from this place of groundedness we can project "here I am" in a positive way; with our self-awareness and empowerment. When walking into situations we then have things to share, the ability to be open, aware and responsive to the stimuli around us. We can engage in the present moment and make the most of things for ourselves and for others. In this scenario we do not draw the energy away from others and plant seeds of having a big ego. This is a win/win posture for life, business and relationship. If we are grounded in self-awareness and hold the question of how can I be of service, we provide and receive with a seamless ease.
The opposite end of the spectrum is walking into a room projecting "there you are". "There you are" is a powerful energy to project from a place of personal grounding. Think about how delightful it is when someone you perceive as "put together", "squared away", and/or "successful" approaches you with a sincere inquiry or compliment about about you, your work or an event in your life. Now think about how powerful it can be for you to project your energy in this way. You of course must have a sincere curiosity about those in you are speaking with. What are their strengths? What do they do with natural ease and grace? And so on. What does it cost you to be interested in someone else? What might you learn or gain by engaging in a conversation started around someone else's strengths? You'd be amazed!
Projecting "there you are" from an ungrounded, insecure, or deflecting posture is often self-defeating and does not serve you or the other person very well. When we are ungrounded, insecure or deflecting attention/energy away from ourselves we are often selling ourselves short. We can do this consciously and subconsciously.
I invite you to think about - at the very least - how you project your energy when you walk into a room, situation, party, etc. What is your most comfortable pattern of projecting your energy? Consider your behavior at work, socially, with family, with friends. What difference do you notice? I strongly encourage you to journal about how you show up most often, "here I am" or "there you are".
Knowing who you are and how you show up in the world makes you more successful in everything you do.
Jounal On!
Wendy
I began to think about my work with clients where I focus on being present and filled with self-awareness; i.e grounded. When we enter a room is there a wrong or right way to project our energy? How do we make "here I am" a good way to enter a room rather than it being an ego based exercise that takes away from others? Is is always better to enter a room projecting "there you are"?
When we are present in the moment, knowing who we are, what we want, what we need, what our goals are we are grounded. It is from this position that we can walk into a room with the graciousness of "here I am" and/or the generosity of "there you are". We can increase others sense of welcome, comfort, value, engagement from either projection of our energy; when we are personally grounded we provide for others and reap rewards for ourselves.
It is from this place of groundedness we can project "here I am" in a positive way; with our self-awareness and empowerment. When walking into situations we then have things to share, the ability to be open, aware and responsive to the stimuli around us. We can engage in the present moment and make the most of things for ourselves and for others. In this scenario we do not draw the energy away from others and plant seeds of having a big ego. This is a win/win posture for life, business and relationship. If we are grounded in self-awareness and hold the question of how can I be of service, we provide and receive with a seamless ease.
The opposite end of the spectrum is walking into a room projecting "there you are". "There you are" is a powerful energy to project from a place of personal grounding. Think about how delightful it is when someone you perceive as "put together", "squared away", and/or "successful" approaches you with a sincere inquiry or compliment about about you, your work or an event in your life. Now think about how powerful it can be for you to project your energy in this way. You of course must have a sincere curiosity about those in you are speaking with. What are their strengths? What do they do with natural ease and grace? And so on. What does it cost you to be interested in someone else? What might you learn or gain by engaging in a conversation started around someone else's strengths? You'd be amazed!
Projecting "there you are" from an ungrounded, insecure, or deflecting posture is often self-defeating and does not serve you or the other person very well. When we are ungrounded, insecure or deflecting attention/energy away from ourselves we are often selling ourselves short. We can do this consciously and subconsciously.
I invite you to think about - at the very least - how you project your energy when you walk into a room, situation, party, etc. What is your most comfortable pattern of projecting your energy? Consider your behavior at work, socially, with family, with friends. What difference do you notice? I strongly encourage you to journal about how you show up most often, "here I am" or "there you are".
Knowing who you are and how you show up in the world makes you more successful in everything you do.
Jounal On!
Wendy
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